How To Deal With Being Alone
How To Deal With Being Alone? We all need some alone time every now and then. It’s important for our mental health and well-being. When we’re with others it can be easy to feel pressured or rushed. We may not have the chance to take the time to stop and relax if someone else comes up and asks us to go somewhere right away. However, when we’re on our own, there are no such expectations.
If you find yourself feeling lonely, or isolated from friends and family, consider taking part in an activity (or two) that makes use of your free time. This could include painting, sewing, gardening, reading, writing, walking, hiking, cooking, baking, knitting, crocheting, exercising, playing sports, watching movies, listening to music, going out to eat, volunteering, or just spending quiet time by yourself doing nothing at all. The idea here is to choose activities that you will enjoy doing during your alone time.
To help make alone time more fun, plan to do something that you want to do. If you don’t have any ideas yet, consider asking other people who might have suggestions. Or, check out books written specifically addressing this topic – they provide plenty of ideas. Some examples include:
* Reading. You can read anything you’d like, whether it’s fiction or nonfiction, mystery novels or biographies, romance or historical novels. Books also give you the opportunity to explore new interests without having to leave home.
* Writing. Perhaps you’ve always wanted to start a blog or a journal but never got around to it. Now is as good a time as ever to begin! Write whatever comes into your mind or heart. Don’t worry about spelling or grammar. Just write. Even if you don’t care how long it takes to complete a particular piece, try to sit down each day for a little while and write.
* Gardening. Whether you love flowers, vegetables, herbs, or fruit trees, these plants put forth their best growth when given ample sunlight and water. Take advantage of this natural beauty by getting outdoors and tending to them yourself. Plant seeds or cuttings. Water your garden. Pick ripe fruits and veggies. Make apple sauce, pickles, jam, jelly, syrup, salad dressings, chutney, yogurt dip, pesto, salsa, hummus, relish, etc. Harvest fresh herbs. Wash and prepare produce. Bake breads, muffins, cookies, cakes, scones, pies. Use your imagination.
* Cooking. Cook meals that you truly enjoy. There are many recipes available online. Try making one recipe per week. If you already know how to cook, try a different type of meal preparation each week. For example, try preparing a vegetarian dish instead of meat next time. If you haven’t cooked much before, look for beginner cookbooks. They’ll guide you through things step-by-step.
* Knitting/Crocheting. Knit scarves, mittens, hats, gloves, blankets, ponchos, afghans, bags, socks, sweaters, mitts, baby clothes, etc. Crochet lace collars, cuffs, ruffles, bows, tablecloths, curtains, bedspreads, towels, afghan squares, etc.
* Exercising. Go for walks. Do yoga poses. Walk in place. Play basketball, tennis, volleyball, dodgeball, hopscotch, catch a Frisbee, play tag, kick a soccer ball. Play fetch with your dog or cat. Ride bikes. Run. Swim. Jump rope. Workout videos are also an option.
* Baking. Mix simple cake batter. Make frosting. Roll cookie dough. Combine ingredients for homemade macaroni & cheese. Decorate cupcakes. Bake chicken, fish, ham, turkey, beef, pork chops, potatoes, sweet potatoes, carrots, onions, zucchini, squash, apples, peaches, brownies, etc.
* Playing Sports. Participate in team sports like soccer, softball, baseball, football, hockey, basketball, flag football, etc. Individually, engage in individual sports like tennis, badminton, racquetball, bowling, golf, horseback riding, swimming, running, biking, skiing, skating, ice skating, surfing, skateboarding, snow boarding, rock climbing, camping, kayaking, canoeing, etc.
* Going Out To Eat. Visit restaurants. Order food delivered. Pack lunches. Plan picnics. Have potlucks and barbecues. Volunteer at soup kitchens. Host dinner parties. Rent a movie and order popcorn. Arrange for babysitters. Treat yourself to a spa treatment. Watch movies together. Attend plays, concerts, opera performances, museums, lectures, art exhibits, sporting events, parades, religious services, festivals, fairs, carnivals, etc.
* Listening To Music. Listen to classical music. Enjoy jazz. Learn to dance. Read lyrics to songs. Sing along. Dance to music played over the radio. Put on music CDs. Create your own playlist using songs you like. Buy music CD players. Download MP3 files onto your computer. Join a band. Start a band. Jam. Practice singing lessons. Find local musicians. Become a musician.
* Volunteering. Help elderly neighbors. Clean up parks, beaches, nature preserves, schools, hospitals, homes, etc. Give blood. Tutor children. Volunteer overseas. Adopt pets. Support causes that matter to you. Spend time helping those less fortunate than you.
* Watching Movies. Rent movies. Buy DVDs. Stream videos online. Watch TV shows. Play games. Take in a concert. Catch up on soap operas. Reorganize your DVD collection. Organize video collections. Watch comedies, dramas, horror films, action films, documentaries, foreign films, old black-and-white movies, silent movies, newsreels, cartoons, etc.
* Doing Nothing At All. Relaxation exercises. Meditate. Pray. Journal. Exercise. Sleep. Garden. Paint. Sew. Call a friend. Get a pet. Take a trip. Go shopping. Go dancing. Go window-shopping. Take photos. Go to church. Go for a drive. Go to work. Go to school. Go to a library. Go to a park. Hang out at the mall. Go to a bookstore. Make a list of 100 Things To Do Before You Die.
Being alone isn’t necessarily bad. In fact, being alone can actually enhance your life. But if you find yourself missing out on social interaction because you’re busy working or studying, consider trying out some of the above activities. These activities will help you reconnect with yourself and add variety and joy to your life.
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