Is It Wrong To Masturbate
“The first time I ever did anything sexual was when I was about eight years old. My mom caught me doing something that she thought was a little inappropriate with my brother. She told us not to do it again, but honestly, I don’t think either one of us were listening.
I’ve been masturbating since then, though usually only once every few weeks or months rather than on a daily basis. And while there have been times where I felt guilty for having sex with myself, the overwhelming majority of the time masturbation has been nothing short of enjoyable.
It wasn’t until recently that I realized just how common self-pleasure really is. A number of friends of mine, including several celebrities like Britney Spears and Demi Lovato, admitted to masturbating themselves when they were younger.
So why all the fuss? Is masturbation inherently wrong? Or should we feel ashamed for enjoying our own bodies? Let’s take a look.
What is Masturbation?
According to the book Sexual Ecology: Sex Positions, Activities, Attitudes & You by Drs. Michael Simon & Martin K. Speck, masturbation can be defined as “”the stimulation of one’s genitals for erotic pleasure.”” While this definition may seem pretty tame, many people find it hard to believe that such an innocent act could cause so much angst.
While masturbation is often associated with women (particularly teenage girls), men also enjoy pleasuring themselves. In fact, according to a study published in 2012, nearly half of adult American males admit to masturbating at least once a week. Another survey conducted by the same researchers found that more than 50 percent of college students had masturbated during their freshman year.
In addition to being completely natural, masturbation provides a ton of benefits. For example, research suggests that stimulating your clitoris might help treat symptoms of depression and anxiety. On top of that, studies show that frequent masturbation can actually make you smarter. Basically, if masturbation gives you any sort of mental health benefit whatsoever, it’s clearly good for you.
There’s even evidence that masturbation can increase fertility. According to a recent study published in the Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology, women who masturbate two to three times per week were more likely to conceive within 12 months than those who never touch themselves.
On a related note, another study showed that women who regularly use lubricants during intercourse tend to conceive sooner than those who abstain. This means that using lube when masturbating can improve your chances of getting pregnant.
Finally, masturbation doesn’t just give you orgasms. Regular masturbation helps strengthen your pelvic muscles and increases blood flow throughout your body. As a result, it can even help prevent pregnancy.
All right, so now we understand what masturbation is and why it’s beneficial, but does it mean everyone out there masturbates? Absolutely not!
Everyone Masturbs At Some Point
We’re all different. We each have our own unique sexuality, which means that masturbation will always be a bit personal. While some people may want to orgasm from penetration, others may prefer manual stimulation over penetrative sex. Similarly, some people may enjoy watching other people engage in sexual activity, while others would prefer to be left alone.
But even if you aren’t interested in any kind of sexual activity with someone else, it isn’t too late to start masturbating yourself. Most people begin masturbating between the ages of five and six. By adulthood, roughly 75 percent of people report having masturbated.
If you haven’t yet started masturbating, here are a couple things you should consider before taking the plunge. First off, you probably won’t see any results immediately. Masturbation takes practice, especially if you haven’t done it in awhile. Also, because masturbation requires you to focus entirely on yourself, it can sometimes be difficult to stay present in real life. That said, try focusing on breathing exercises, meditation, yoga, or whatever works best for you.
Bottom line, masturbation shouldn’t be seen as taboo or shameful. If you haven’t already begun masturbating, it’s definitely OK to start today.
As far as masturbation itself goes, there are tons of ways to go about it. Here are a few tips that’ll hopefully help you along the way:
Start slow. Unlike anal sex, the idea of self-love is not going to turn anyone straight overnight. Take your time and explore your body.
Use toys. Toys can provide additional sensations that you wouldn’t necessarily experience otherwise.
Take advantage of foreplay. Foreplay involves teasing your vagina/clitoris with fingers and tongue, giving you plenty of opportunities to learn new techniques and develop your skills.
Don’t rush. Masturbation can take anywhere from 10 seconds to multiple minutes, depending on your preferences. Don’t worry if it feels weird at first; you’ll eventually figure it out.
And lastly…masturbation is supposed to feel good. So keep your eyes closed, relax, breathe deeply, and let yourself melt away.
Have you ever masturbated? What was your favorite technique? Share your thoughts below!
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