What Does It Mean To Masturbate
“When you were young did anyone ever tell you that masturbation was wrong? If so, I’m very sorry they did because they are either ignorant or evil (or both). Masturbation is not only an accepted part of our society but has been practiced since before recorded history. In fact, there have been many cultures where women masturbated regularly as part of their everyday lives. This might seem strange at first but think about this; if men could orgasm through penetration by another man then why would they need to stimulate themselves? The answer is that most men cannot achieve orgasm without some kind of outside stimulus. Women on the other hand can orgasm with no external help whatsoever. So what’s the big deal about masturbation anyway?
It means different things to different people and while masturbation itself may not be a problem per se, the way in which we view ourselves affects whether or not we are comfortable enough to do it. Many people feel guilty about masturbating even though it is completely natural and harmless. They worry that doing so will make them self-centered and shallow. These people also often have a hard time achieving orgasm during sex with a partner. Self-love is something that should never be taken lightly or denied. We all deserve love and appreciation just like everyone else does. When one feels loved and cared for by those around them, it becomes easier to show that same care towards oneself.
The biggest misconception about masturbation is that it is bad, dirty, degrading, or sinful. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Masturbation is actually quite spiritual and religious when approached in the right way. Most religions have rituals, prayers, and ceremonies dedicated to the god or goddess of pleasure. There are many ancient civilizations such as Babylon, Egypt, Greece, India, and Rome who had celebrations, festivals, and holidays that revolved around pleasurable activities including sex, eating, drinking, music, art, sports, games, dancing, and more! As long ago as 2600 BC the Sumerians believed that “”pleasure was the creator.”” Also, the Etruscans held orgies every year called Feriae Volventes (Festival of Vents) where couples engaged in oral, anal, and vaginal intercourse in order to bring fertility to their crops. In Greek mythology, Dionysus was known as the God of Wine, Sexual Pleasures, and Madness. And his Roman counterpart Bacchus gave rise to wine, grapevines, and ecstasy.
In addition, masturbation is a form of meditation and relaxation. For example, try closing your eyes and focusing solely on your breathing. Breathe slowly, deeply, and steadily into your diaphragm until you start to get lightheaded. Once you’ve achieved this state, focus on nothing except your breath going in and out of your nose. Continue this process until you start to fall asleep. Try it tonight and see how much better you sleep after wards. Another great way to relax is to lie down in bed and mentally visualize yourself walking through a forest or desert. Imagine seeing a beautiful sunset or sunrise, listening to birds singing, or feeling wind blowing across your skin. Feel free to use whatever imagery works best for you. Just don’t forget to breathe normally during these sessions. By concentrating on your breathing and relaxing your mind you’ll find that you become less stressed and more relaxed.
So now that we’ve cleared up any misconceptions about masturbation, let’s talk about how it works. First off, masturbation isn’t really a chore in the traditional sense. Sure, you’ll want to cleanse your genital area beforehand and take breaks between sessions but it doesn’t require too much physical exertion or energy expenditure. In fact, you can perform it anywhere at anytime. You’re probably familiar with the sensation of wetness inside of your vagina caused by arousal. Well, when you touch yourself or rub your fingers over your clitoris you cause the same reaction within the female anatomy. Basically, when you masturbate you experience the exact sensations that you’d expect to experience if you were having sex with someone else. You create an artificial climax that mimics real sex. This is true regardless of whether you are male or female. Both sexes benefit from learning how to masturbate as well as understanding the differences between masturbation and actual sex.
Now that we know masturbation is good for us, let’s look at what makes it difficult for some people to enjoy. Some people simply have problems reaching orgasm. Others struggle with anxiety and fear. Still others are afraid of getting caught masturbating in public places. Whatever your reasons for avoiding masturbation, please understand that it is okay to seek professional help. There are therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, physicians, counselors, etc. available specifically trained to assist you with overcoming your mental blocks and inhibitions. Don’t give up hope and believe that masturbation is something you have to live with forever. With proper treatment and guidance you can overcome anything life throws at you. Remember, there is no shame in being happy.”
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