Why Do I Have To Live
“I have no idea why I’m here,”” says the young man on his deathbed, as he contemplates what’s left for him to do before he dies. “”All my life, all I ever wanted was a reason to go on living.””
He then looks at his wife and asks her, “”Is there any good reason why I should be alive?”” She shakes her head sadly.
The man has cancer; it’s terminal. He has lost everything…his health, his family, his job, his money, his dignity. His wife tells him she doesn’t want to stay married to him because she feels unloved by him. The man thinks back over his entire life and realizes how much pain he caused others simply because he didn’t feel like being fully present. His children tell him they hate him and wish he would die. Even his mother-in-law wants him out of the house. And yet, this man still lives. Why? Because when you’re dying, you realize your greatest gift was never anything material. It was love. Love is your reason to go on living.
When you choose to live, you can find your reason to go on living anywhere. In fact, if you look around you will see that every single person on earth has a reason to go on living. We each have our own unique story to tell. Our purpose is to learn from those stories and then share them with others. As long as we continue to live, we’ll keep discovering things about ourselves of which we were not aware. That means we’ll always have new reasons to go on living.
There is an old Chinese proverb that states: “”To live is divine, but to die is human.”” Many people believe that dying is more difficult than living, and that somehow the process of dying must be easier. But dying is just as hard as living. Both require courage and faith. For example, while driving through the snow one winter day, a woman hit another car head-on. Her husband died instantly and she suffered serious injuries. While in hospital recovering, she often thought about her husband and wondered why he had to die. Then one night, lying awake in bed, she heard a voice say: “”If you knew how many times I’ve tried to stop you from going into that accident, you’d think twice about doing it again.””
This experience convinced her of two things: first, that God loves her, and second, that her husband had been trying to protect her since before they met. This realization gave her peace and comfort. It also helped her heal faster. Years later, after giving birth to their daughter, the woman realized that her husband would have preferred that she had died rather than lived through such an ordeal. If only he could have known how truly loved he was.
So why do most people prefer to avoid thinking about death? One answer might be that we’re afraid of what lies beyond this world. Another answer may come from the fear of losing control. We worry that we won’t be able to make decisions for ourselves once we cross over. Yet, even though we have these fears, we needn’t let them prevent us from living. Instead of focusing on death, focus on living. Focus on how lucky you are to be alive right now.
One of the best ways to overcome your fears is to talk about what you fear. Write down your thoughts and feelings surrounding the subject. When you write, you become less caught up in the drama of your mind and start seeing yourself from a different perspective. You begin breaking the cycle of negativity and confusion. Suddenly you realize that you aren’t alone in feeling angry, sad, frustrated or confused. You see that everyone else feels exactly the same way.
You might ask yourself questions like: What am I afraid of? How does this fear affect me today? Is this fear realistic? Does anyone else feel the same way? Once you examine your fears, you can begin to take action. You can change your behavior, your thoughts and your beliefs. There are plenty of resources available to help you deal with your fears. Visit http://www.FearLessExpo.com to find free information and tools to conquer your fears.
In addition to helping you cope with your fears, talking about your concerns helps you gain clarity. You become aware of your choices and priorities. Your fears can lead you astray. They cause you to jump from problem to problem without taking time to sort through them. By discussing your problems openly, you’ll develop solutions instead of making unproductive choices.
We all have our own individual paths to follow. No matter where they lead, we can rest assured that our journey will bring us closer to understanding who we really are. Death gives us an opportunity to reflect upon our lives and decide whether we’ve chosen wisely. Living gives us the chance to show others the path ahead so that they too may choose wisely. Live well!”
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